Monday, October 26, 2015


Lately I have been feeling a lot of fear and anxiety about bringing another baby into our home. A lot of it has to do with me REMEMBERING how it was in the beginning with Charlotte. It was NOT easy for me. I felt so alone and isolated at the time and I just wanted SLEEP. But things are good now! So so good. I mean, Charlotte is 2. A typical 2 year old for the most part and that can be rough but by golly she SLEEPS and can TALK and she is generally more fun to do things with now (sorry Charlotte as a baby- you were fun too but in a different way). But now we are throwing a wrench in our routine and bringing another screaming new born into our lives and I am freaking out just a little bit. Maybe it has to do with the fact that I am the baby of the family? I mean, I basically grew up as an only child so my baby experience was limited to babysitting for a few hours. But now... NOW I know what we are getting ourselves into. And I'm kind of freaking out a bit.
I am sure EVERY parent has felt some sort of fear when expecting baby #2 (and so on)... 
No, I'm not scared of birth (after I had Charlotte, I told my mom and Devin that I could probably do that again)... But what I am scared of is...

#1. Charlotte not feeling loved enough. I am trying so hard to hold her, and kiss her, and snuggle her at every single opportunity. I tell her I love you a million+ times in a day (to which she responds "i yove you too mom"). I am smothering her in love so that maybe her "love glass" can be a bit overfilled for when the new baby comes. 

#2. NEW baby not feeling loved enough. I just don't see how my love can be multiplied and equal between my children at this point. I know everyone says that it will happen but I just can't see it at this point. Don't get me wrong I LOVE this babe growing inside of me but I already feel like it's kind of on the back burner while I focus my attention on Charlotte 100% while I can. Is that bad?

#3. How am I going to divide my attention between them both?  New baby is going to need SO MUCH attention but Charlotte still needs a lot of attention too. I can just see it happening now- them both waking up at the same time at night and BOTH needing me!

#4. SLEEP! For the love of all that is holy WHEN will I sleep!? I am an absolute MONSTER without sleep. Getting sleep helps me to be a better mother. But at least with only one kid you can TRY and sleep when the baby sleeps during the day. There is no way Charlotte will let that happen once new baby comes. 

#5. Me, becoming a zombie... and loosing myself. It's a hard thing to admit but I definitely feel like I lost myself a bit once Charlotte was born. I was swallowed up in breastfeeding, burping, changing diapers, cleaning the house... I was so consumed with my new role that I didn't remember who I was before or what I even liked to do. I suppose I still kind of feel that way because when Devin asked me what my dream was the other day I didn't have an answer. I haven't had TIME to think or dream of a dream. Between school and momming, and wifeing... there has been no time to fantasize about any other dream than making it past nursing school- now my dream is to pass boards. (Devin's dream is to be a ski lift operator and drive back to his cabin in his Ferrari...) Now that nursing school is over I have to remember what I liked and DID before nursing school and before Charlotte (Devin says my only hobby is shopping. I know he says it jokingly and lovingly but it kind of stings to feel like that's all you do). I think that's why I needed nursing school so much. I needed a long awaited dream to come true. With new baby coming, I need to think of new (realistic) dreams so I DON'T lose myself this time around. AND apparently to remember my old hobbies...

#6. Being cooped up in the house all the time. How am I EVER going to leave the house with 2 kids!? It seems like an impossible feat. I know people do it. And I have to remember how I felt leaving the house with just a  newborn...

#7. Finding time for myself and finding time for dates. Devin and I hardly go on dates without Charlotte. We go on "family" dates but really our only alone time is what Charlotte sleeps. We usually go out for our anniversary and around my birthday and maybe one or two other times during the year. A few "real" dates a year for the past 2 years. And to be honest any time I have been given "me" time I have felt guilty! I have felt guilty about being alone and not being with my family so I usually cut my time short and head home early.

Maybe I'm the only one who feels this way- but it's nice to write it down. It's therapeutic somehow about writing out your fears and being honest about how you feel...

Experienced mama's, any advice for welcoming baby #2 for our whole family? 

Saturday, October 3, 2015

Pregnancy Must Have's- Skin Care

Since this is my second go-round I feel like I know what I'm getting myself into (or at least I thought I did. This pregnancy has definitely been more difficult for me). I ordered the most expensive prenatal vitamins and started taking them months and months ago- ya know- just to have all that goodness in my system... but they made me sick. So, there's that. But I definitely have some tried and true favorites and some new favorites that have been helping my skin this go-around. Because to be honest, this is the absolute WORST my skin has ever been. Even worse than when I was a teenager. I'm going to Sephora today to hopefully find some type of hormone-induced-acne relief. Please note, there is only ONE truly "for pregnant ladies" item on here. The other 8 are for EVERYONE.

#1. L'Occitane shower gel. I know this has been on my favorites for awhile but I have switched to using this as my shower gel as well as my shave gel. It's so creamy and buttery and delicious. It makes my skin super soft and it smells divine.

#2. Boscia Konjac cleaning sponge. I bought one of these on a whim while I was visiting my parents in March and now both Devin and I can't live without it. I threw an old one away recently and Devin said, "Well, how am I supposed to wash my face?" So now it's a permanent resident in our shower. It's gentle exfoliation is perfect for everyday use and you can even use it on your eyes (if you want to of course).

#3. A good body scrub. Currently I am using Bloke's body scrub but Frank here is in my cart and ready for purchase (along with their body cream). No, I don't drink coffee but I am ALL for using it in a scrub. If you haven't already, go check out Frank Body's Instagram and find their before and afters for stretch marks. It's ridiculous. If a good scrub isn't in your arsenal, please go get one! It will change your skin.

#4. Mother's friend. The only "true" pregnancy item on this list. Some of you may remember this from my previous pregnancy favorites post. As soon as I found out I was pregnant, I stocked up on this baby. My mom used it through all 4 of her pregnancies- not a single stretch mark! I used it all through my pregnancy with Charlotte- not a single stretch mark! I use it once-twice a day depending on how my skin feels. Guys, I'm a believer in this stuff. Scrubbing + mother's friend= least likely to get stretch marks. (Please note, yes I do understand that stretch marks are widely hereditary).

#5. Peter Thomas Roth pumpkin enzyme mask. This is mostly on my list because it works so well and partly because it's October. Confession, I "stole" this from husband's medicine cabinet. I bought it for him as a stocking stuffer last Christmas and the man has yet to use it! So, I have put it to excellent use. I only use it once a week but man oh man it works wonders. If you don't want to buy the huge one for $$$ get the 3 mini's for $20 (at Sephora)! It's a great deal and you get to try 3 masks.

#6. Exfoliate by Kate Somerville. Ok, let me just start off by saying this stuff is pricey. But it's worth it. I use it 2-3 times per week (not on a day where I use the PTR mask. They smell very similar and combined would be too harsh and drying on the skin). It's so quick and simple! You only leave it on for 2 minutes and it works wonders. I have been using this stuff since before summer started and I am a huge fan.

#7. Korres wild rose overnight sleeping facial. This was also a purchase I made as soon as I found out I was pregnant. I used this all throughout my pregnancy with Charlotte and knew I needed it again for this one. I feel like this is definitely more for skin that is on the dry side (like mine is during pregnancy)- so if you are dry, this baby is for you.

#8. Lush cosmetics bath bombs. For Christmas last year I made all of my friends homemade bath bombs. I am a HUGE fan of relaxing in the tub (bonus, mine is a Jacuzzi tub) and Lush is always my go-to for bath bombs and bubble bars. You really can't go wrong with either.

#9. Kiehl's soy milk and honey whipped body butter. My tried and true. My ride or die. This will forever be my favorite lotion of all time until I can find something better (which has yet to happen in the last 3 years, and believe me I have tried my fair share).  Yes, it's insanely pricey for lotion but it LASTS FOREVER! The one I am currently using, I have had for 3 months and I am not finished with it yet. Plus, IT WORKS! I don't ever feel like I need to reapply and it smells divine.